Wednesday, July 29, 2015

Description of the church using only the bible (according to chan)

A couple years ago (7.18.15) I had the pleasure of hearing Francis Chan speak in Fort Wayne. If I remember correctly he was just starting up a church in his home, and the gist of his talk was based on this question: "If someone asked you to describe church using only the Bible and not your experience, how would you do it?" That's what he intended as the basis for his church. I happened to run across my notes the other day...

According to Francis, the average person could spend 3-5 hours a week leading a church like he had in mind. He believes it should be built on 4 things:

  • Love/Family - Basically the "one another" passages. He asks, "What if we REALLY loved one another?" Hmm... good question.
  • Training/Equipping - According to the Bible the gifted people were equipped for works of service. Just like in a family, where people (kids) are trained in order to be released into the world.
  • The Mission - Everyone should be making disciples (the Great Commission).
  • Gathering together regularly. Acts 2:42 "They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer."
 Anyway... I'm not saying whether Francis is right or not, or even if I agree with these four descriptors. But I'd been looking for them, and thinking about this, and am glad I found them.

Tuesday, July 28, 2015

Feeling inhospitable

I've been thinking lately about hospitality. I remember when we started searching for a home in Fort Wayne, there were several things we wanted: a home in a neighborhood, a front porch, and sidewalks, just to name a few. We wanted to live in a neighborhood where we could get to know the people, and through nightly walks, visits, block parties and such, we wanted to sort of develop a sense of community around which God might make himself known.

When we found such a house and neighborhood, one of the first things we did was make a map for our refrigerator and keep track of all the neighbors names. Then we made a point to go visit with several of them. We always tried to leave our garage door open when we were home as a welcome sign that people could stop in for a visit. We invited neighbors to parties we had and tried to wave and speak to everyone we saw on our nightly strolls.

I believe hospitality is a pretty foundational aspect to living out ones faith. I think it is at the heart of Jesus teaching, and his very incarnation (being present in the world). Certainly there are plenty of Bible verses speaking of such. Just a few are...
  • "Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling." -1 Peter 4:9
  • "Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality." -Romans 12:13
  • "Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers, for by so doing some people have shown hospitality to angels without knowing it." -Hebrews 13:2
  • "We ought therefore to show hospitality to such people so that we may work together for the truth." -3 John 1:8
So, I say all that and I have to admit... I just don't feel very hospitable anymore. I've become one of the people in the neighborhood who walks with their head down, I no longer wave at cars as they go by, I pull in the garage and shut the door when I get home to avoid seeing or being seen by the neighbors. Even at church... there are occasions where people will come up and talk to me, and I just don't feel like socializing. Yes, I can be somewhat introverted, but it's not that. I'm just... tired. I'm tired of being misunderstood; unknown; unheard; maybe even alienated. I suppose it's a defense mechanism I use to avoid others before they avoid me.

There are a handful of people I do feel comfortable around, and I certainly WANT to be a part of a group. I just feel awkward and... tired... around the rest. Kind of like it's not worth it anymore.

I know that it is worth it. I know it's just a phase. I even know why I am feeling like this (or at least I think I do). It doesn't make it any easier though. So I'm writing about it; and praying about it; and hoping God can somehow use this phase in some way (and also bring it to a close). I long to be part of a community where we can "stir up one another to love and good works" as Hebrews 10:24 encourages. In the meantime... meh.

Monday, July 27, 2015

3 new fort wayne eateries

I love living in Fort Wayne. It's an almost perfect-sized city for finding things to do, but not so big that it loses it's charm. In the last month or so we have found three new spots that opened within the city, and I believe each offers their own unique niche to make our fair town just a little better. Let me provide a brief review of each (based upon my own personal tastes and wallet):

BAR 145° - Burgers, Bands and Bourbon

I LOVE Bar 145! It is my kind of place. It's a gastro pub on North Clinton specializing in burgers, bands, and bourbon. Their tag line is "Red Chucks, White China" - emphasizing the culture clash of serving their food on white china while the employees are sporting red Chuck Taylor tennis shoes. There is a spacious patio, a 50-seat oval bar, plenty of flat screen TVs, and a stage for live music. You can create your own burger, or choose from a variety of others options on the menu. It's also a great place to simply meet some friends and enjoy a drink. It's not outrageously priced - probably similar to an Applebees or Cheddars.
Rating: *****

This is a very neat place, conveniently located in the Harrison building on Jefferson Blvd, with outdoor seating along the lovely Parkview Field concourse. Wine Down is a classy joint with a casual atmosphere, featuring over 50 wines available for tasting or by the bottle. They have state of the art tasting machines with "tasting cards" available in either prepaid or open tab formats. It really is a wine lovers paradise. They also sport a full bar with several signature drinks (I love the Smoked Old Fashioned), and a lunch and dinner menu with unique food selections for each. There is bar seating and plenty of cozy nooks inside, and a spacious outdoor seating area. They even offer several couches with fire pits. It's a little on the pricey side, but this is a fun and classy place for a nice night (or day) out.
Rating: ****

To be fair, we did not get off on the right foot with The Hoppy Gnome, and we've only been there once (unlike the other two places). I'm not real sure if we will go back, but I will try to give them a fair shake. I had heard good things about this place - another creation of the people who operate Bakerstreet Steakhouse. It's also nice to see something go in downtown - at the corner of Clinton & Berry Streets. They do offer spacious seating indoors, as well as a nice patio area outside. But... let me tell you about our little adventure: We moseyed in on a Sunday evening. It was a nice night, so we asked to sit outside. Perfect. Until we tried to get in our chairs. The hostess warned us they were a little heavy. Yeah... apparently they don't want anyone running off with them. So, strike #1 is the chairs are way too heavy and difficult to maneuver. Then the server shows up and asks what we would like to drink. I noticed the menu just listed wines, and asked if they had a beer list. Strike #2 - he gave some lame excuse that they have too many brands on tap to have a list, so I should just tell him what I like to drink. I said I'd like a flight, with something along the lines of lagers to dark. He was stumped, and finally says, "Well, most lagers aren't very dark." I just looked at him for a second, and then ordered whatever it was my wife had. So that actually counts as strikes 2, 3 & 4 (no beer list, lame excuse, poor customer service). At that point I was not in a very good mood, and it didn't appear the tables on either side of us were either (hard time with the chairs, and also asked for a beer list). I tried to look at the food menu, but honestly, I couldn't make heads or tails of it. Okay, so it's just not my kind of place. I get that. So, just as I'm prepared to have one drink, leave the waiter a lousy tip, and leave... some friends of ours drove by and saw us sitting outside. They joined us and we had a couple more drinks. That not only improved my mood, but also salvaged a decent tip for the waiter. In his defense, he was a good server, and it's not his fault they don't have a beer list. Really, there is NO EXCUSE to not have a beer list!!! Print one off on a stinking piece of paper every day, for crying out loud!!! Then, strike #5, one of the other servers overheard us talking about the lack of a beer list, and out of the blue he walks by and says we could just go take a picture of the tappers inside if we wanted to know. Um... I didn't know if he was trying to be a smart-ass or helpful, but it didn't help. Okay, okay, okay... Yes, this is too long. Let me just sum up by saying, our first experience here did not go well. It *could* be a neat place. I would like it to be a neat place. At this point, I have no real desire to go back though.
Rating: **

So, there ya go. My little attempt at adding to what's been added to our lovely city. I invite you to try them out yourself. Peace out; and in.

Saturday, July 25, 2015

Cake: good grief

Jane and I had nothing to do last night, so we decided to see if there were any mediocre movies on Netflix. We stumbled onto the movie "Cake." I don't think I had heard of it, but Jane said she'd heard it was supposed to be good. It has Jennifer Aniston and Anna Kendrick in it, so I thought "How bad can it be?"

Wow. It is powerful! I wouldn't exactly say it is a "good" movie... It's dark, emotionally gut-wrenching, and should leave you weeping... It was very worthwhile and thought-provoking though.

The iMDb storyline reads:
The acerbic, hilarious CLAIRE SIMMONS becomes fascinated by the suicide of a woman in her chronic pain support group. As she uncovers the details of Nina's suicide and develops a poignant relationship with Nina's husband, she also grapples with her own, very raw personal tragedy.

I particularly liked one reviewer's comment:
Our culture asks us to forgive. Sociopaths want us to forgive and forget. "Cake" explores the difficulty of navigating the real and brutal emotions we face when a tragedy crashes in to our lives.

Yes. That is how I felt while watching this movie. My mind went over the 5 stages of grief coined by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance. I was trained in understanding these at seminary and as a pastor. I've heard countless professionals and church leaders talk about helping people deal with and move through the process. Unfortunately, when Jane and I were trying to navigate a very ugly period in our lives (being let go by our church), we saw very little of this extended to us by those very same people.

I can still remember the person who was/is supposed to be my "supervisor" (the pastor to the pastors) repeatedly telling me, "Dan, you just need to get over it and move on!" This was just a couple weeks after the incident happened. I was trying, but it hurt. At one point I lost it and apparently said a "cuss word." He basically cut off all contact with me after that.

Yes, I understand that it is not healthy to get stuck in any one of the stages, and that we are still accountable for our actions... But do we really want to acknowledge ALL five stages? There seems to be a hesitance to allow for the middle three: Anger, Bargaining & Depression. I know I have trouble accepting those myself, in others. We want the grieving process to be almost... neat. We certainly want it to be peaceful, and probably nice (especially among church leaders).

I know I do not always handle things well. I didn't handle the church departure well. What I still have a hard time with, more than anything, is the alienation by supposed friends and colleagues because I had the audacity to wear my grief openly - to actually go through all five stages. Maybe someday it will make sense. Maybe not.

Anyway, the movie 'Cake' does a good job of showing the grieving process in a very raw and probably honest way. I can't imagine losing a child or a spouse. I'm sure movies don't do it justice. However, I was moved by watching 'Cake,' and glad we spent that time together last night. In the future I hope to be better at not only accepting the behavior of others going through the grieving process, but also showing support to them while they do. I know I am thankful for the few people who have and are assisting me. May God bless them.

Thursday, July 23, 2015

Faith coaching - review

I finished reading the book Faith Coaching: A Conversational Approach to Helping Others Move Forward in Faith, by Chad Hall, Bill Copper, and Kathryn McElveen. I am not very good at providing reviews, but thought this a worthwhile read, so... here are my 2 cents.

Overall, the book fit my definition of a good read because it was well laid out (chapters evenly spaced and not too wordy), the type was easy to read, and it was not overly long at 200 pages. It was also easy to understand. If there is a negative, it's that it was put out in 2009 (and I'm just getting around to it).

As a coaching book, I thought it equally good. They didn't push their own business (or anyone else's), and didn't make it only for those who do coaching professionally. You don't even need to be a "coach."

Perhaps the best thing about the book is how they present a way for almost anyone to coach anyone else in "moving forward in faith." 

In fact, they define it very much the way I define discipleship:
"Moving forward in faith means you are becoming a better person, a better human being, a better version of yourself in the most holistic and healthy way possible. It means you are becoming more like Jesus (John 3:30)."

As I said, the book was laid out very well. They begin with "What Is Coaching?" and end with a very practical "What Is My Next Step and How Do I Take It?" It can't get anymore practical than that.

Towards the end (p. 176) they sum up with a brief synopsis of everything covered in the book:
  • God wants you to be godly, and one very important aspect of you being godly is that you help others grow in faith.
  • Coaching is a specific way you can help others grow in faith.
  • Coaching is effective because it's a more personalized way you can help others grow in faith.
  • Coaching requires you to shift your beliefs, your behaviors, your relationships and the results you expect.
  • Coaching is as simple as listening, asking good questions and providing some guidance in the conversations you have.
  • When you have a coaching conversation, you'll move through three basic phases: narrow to a focus, explore options, and design actions.
  • Your coaching can cover a wide range of topics since everybody starts somewhere on their journey forward in faith.
  • When you explore options, the best places to look are within the person being coached and toward their relationships with God and others.
  • The person being coached will design actions that build relationship with God or community to form him or her more fully into the image of God.
  • There are people all around whom you can coach forward in faith, starting with those closest to you.
  • You can take coaching to a whole other level when you work to create a coaching culture around you.
So, that's it in a nutshell. A good book. I recommend it to anyone interested in coaching, or simply anyone wanting to help others grow in their faith.

Wednesday, July 22, 2015

The next book

I am just about finished reading 'Faith Coaching: A Conversational Approach to Helping Others Move Forward in Faith' and I'm trying to decide what to read next.

I have a ton of books I've either bought or had given to me that I've still not read yet. I have a couple more coaching books I need to read. Or I could go back to some of my old favorites - the spiritual formation books. We also have several that Jane has recently read: Rachel Held Evans' 'Searching For Sunday,' Kathy Escobar's 'Faith Shift,' or Donald Miller's 'Scary Close.'

I could also venture into some non-faith/church reading for a change. E.L. Doctorow just passed away, maybe this would be a good time to read something from him.

So... I dunno. I will have to think about it. It's nice to have options.

Tuesday, July 21, 2015

Signs of hope in the church

I happened across this Facebook group yesterday called Nomad Podcast. You can find their website HERE. What caught my eye was the Greg Boyd video, and this little blurb:

Every few weeks we’ll bring you Signs of Hope, a 5-minute (ish) video from a leading thinker or practitioner, reflecting on what they see as signs of hope in the Church.

First up, Greg Boyd. Greg sees hope in the death of Christendom and the rise of a beautiful new peace-loving, non-violent, Jesus-centred, global movement.

The video itself is actually less than 4 minutes long, and Greg manages to word it in a way I have tried to say for years now. I can remember when Reggie McNeal's book Missional Renaissance came out. I was involved in a discussion group about it and I was surprised at the tone of negativity and fear surrounding the demise of christendom. I was like, "Why? Isn't that a good thing?!"

So, regardless of what I say or think... I recommend this brief video from Greg...

Monday, July 20, 2015

The nephew's wedding

We went to Minneapolis, MN this past weekend for my nephew Kyle's wedding. He is my sister's oldest of two sons, and he asked me to do the ceremony for them. I was plenty nervous not only about doing the wedding - I hadn't done one in two years - but I also wasn't sure how things would go over the weekend with various family members, plus it was outdoors, and I had never been there. It ended up being a pretty swell time and I'm glad we went.

The wedding site - before all the chairs were set up.

Jane and I drove to Chicago and flew from Midway to Minneapolis on Friday. It took just over 3 hours to drive and the flight was just under an hour. We took a cab from the airport to the hotel (where our room was, as well as the wedding). The cab ride was a little scary (I thought we were going to wreck about 3 times), but we survived. The rehearsal was Friday night. It was on the 8th floor rooftop of the hotel, and we ate there afterward too. It was a beautiful setting. The rehearsal was a tad chaotic - they had 8 attendants each, and it was not overly well organized - but no one got out of hand and everyone seemed happy when it was over.

The end of the rehearsal

Carrie & Isaac flew up on Saturday from Fort Wayne. We borrowed my parent's car (they drove up Thursday) and picked them up at the airport. We hung out at the hotel and the downtown area, and then the wedding was at 7:30 that night.

All four of us left Sunday morning. We hired an SUV to take us to the airport (cost us the same as the cab - $45) and left the hotel around 8 am. Isaac flew from MN to O'Hare in Chicago, then onto Indianapolis. The rest of us were on a plane together going back to Midway in Chicago. I thought traffic was a little heavy for a Sunday and we got home around 5:30 pm. All in all the travel there and back went pretty smooth.

We stayed at the Crowne Plaza Northstar on 2nd Ave and 7th Street right downtown. It was a very pretty hotel and had a nice bar and restaurant. The elevators were a bit tedious at times, but other than that it was a nice place. Our room was on the 11th floor overlooking the site of the wedding ceremony, which was on the 8th floor. My parents were on the 8th floor, and our kids were on the 9th floor. I think there were 17 floors altogether.

The only real issue we had was, apparently since it was the weekend, the gift shop was closed and there was no water in any of the vending machines. Saturday morning we walked around and there was a Target just a couple blocks over. We also found several restaurants and shops and things. Then on Saturday there were two weddings at the hotel (ours was the 2nd one), and there was some big country music concert at the nearby stadium, so the hotel was PACKED!

The wedding ceremony itself appeared to go fine, but it had it's share of drama. Nothing too major though. It was supposed to start at 7:30, but due to the large number of people in it, a lack of organization on the part of... several people, and maybe alcohol, it didn't start until probably 7:45. Everyone did well though, and the DOG was probably the best of all. The couple had their beautiful white dog (I don't even know what kind it is) as the ring bearer. It didn't actually bring in the rings, but the flower girl and another boy walked it in. It had this adorable tutu around it's neck, and she walked in perfectly, came down to the groom and shook his hand, and then she sat for the rest of the wedding without moving or making a peep! It was incredible.

The ring bearer (after the ceremony)
The two biggest glitches during the ceremony were when the best man (and groom's brother) went to sing during the pouring of the sand. He couldn't get the sound to work for his guitar. I think he just sang and played without it. He did a nice job with the song "Hallelujah" though. Then at the end, when the couple was to walk out, the music wouldn't work. So they had to walk out with no music. Fortunately they gave everyone sparklers, so we just cheered and lit the sparklers for them to walk out to. Otherwise I don't think anyone else noticed any of the other issues, and everyone seemed happy enough when it was over - which is how it usually goes. There were probably just over 200 guests, and the ceremony probably lasted 20-30 minutes.

After the wedding everyone went to the Five Event Center. It was a rather hip place and worked out nicely. It was a little crowded at first, but I think everyone survived. They had two bars and served finger foods throughout the night. It was maybe 3 miles from the wedding, and we arrived a little after 9. We stayed until a little after midnight. It was supposed to end at 2 am. Everyone seemed to enjoy themselves, and I haven't heard that anyone got too out of hand - which is always good, and I am maybe a little surprised about. :)

Again, all in all, it was a really nice weekend. I was glad our kids got to go. My dad did way better than I expected he would. I think most everyone had a nice time.

Sunday, July 19, 2015

People to coach

Earlier this week I met with my personal coach and I asked for help in taking the step towards seeking clients for me to coach. I have formally coached just a couple people (outside of training), and I needed a plan to get the ball rolling, so to speak. It was a profitable coaching session, although I hadn't had time to put it into practice yet (it's been a crazy week). Well... today during my reading of the book 'Faith Coaching,' the chapter was on "Whom Would I Coach" and they gave the following 5 steps to finding people to coach. This is what they suggest:

Step 1: Think about your typical week and the people you encounter. Answer the following questions:

  • Who do you see on the way to work?
  • Who do you connect with at work?
  • Who do you see in the evenings while at home?
  • Who do you talk with on the phone?
  • What neighbors and friends do you see on the weekend?
  • Who do you encounter at church and other activities?
Step 2: Using the list of names from above, now list the names of at least twenty people you regularly encounter at least once per month.

Step 3: For each name on the list think about the typical conversations you have with that person and assign a number between 1 and 10 beside their name. A "1" represents the smallest of small talk ("How was your weekend?"). A score of "10" represents conversations that are meaningful, significant and tend to result in positive spiritual movement.

Step 4: Now go back over your list and think which 4 or 5 relationships have the greatest potential to increase by at least 3 levels (for example, from a 2 to a 5, or from a 6 to a 9). For each of the 4 or 5 relationships, what is it that makes you think there is the potential for more? Jot down the names and your reasoning.

Step 5: Now pick 1 or 2 of the names listed in step 4 and consider these questions:
  • How can you take those conversations deeper through coaching?
  • What would you need to think, do, and say differently that you do now?
  • What obstacles would need to be removed?
  • What results might you experience?
  • Where will you start?
  • When will you do it?

I thought that was a very "timely" reading, considering my coaching session just 2 days prior. Now I just need to do it. :)

Thursday, July 16, 2015

Donald trump represents everything that's wrong with evangelicalism

I know you're never supposed to start off with an apology, but I don't have the time or energy to give this argument the voice it needs at the moment. However, let me just say, I am completely dumbfounded by what I see happening in certain evangelical circles in regard to the 2016 Presidential race in the US of A.

First off, I admit that I think Donald Trump is a joke, not only in his bid to be president of the United States, but even just as a person. I can't believe anyone is actually taking him seriously as a candidate. So imagine my surprise yesterday when I saw some people who I thought of as God-fearing Christians posting on Facebook this article "Donald Trump Made Huge Announcement To All Christians ... He's the Only One Saying This." The gist of the article is that no one is sticking up for the Christians of the world, so Trump vows to represent and defend them/us like no one else will.

Now, I can understand how there are people who like this. But, really, the Donald wants to represent all Christians??? I kind of thought that was Jesus' place. And someone is going to stick up for and fight for Christians??? I kinda thought we were to turn the other cheek. I thought we were to give, rather than take. I thought we were to serve out of love, not demand our rights.

So there's that sort of thing... But lets not forget who we're talking about here. Donald Trump's life is built on money, greed, taking advantage of others, and succeeding by forcing others into submission. In a dog-eat-dog world, he is ferocious. How then does that jive with the life and teachings of Jesus?

Yes, he talks a good game (maybe). He certainly knows how to persuade people. How else would he be where he is. Personally, my issue is not with Donald Trump though. What upsets me more are the people who claim allegiance to Jesus but are somehow finding Donald's ways appealing. Like, how we live our lives doesn't really matter, as long as we say the right things. THAT is what I have a problem with! I believe the message of Christ is just the opposite. It DOES matter how we live our lives; how we treat those around us; how we go about our daily tasks; and our actions and our words should line up.

Anyway... while I really wanted to avoid politics altogether, and I still cannot bring myself to think Donald will actually be a serious candidate, I am quite disappointed to see things like this happen. I will get over it, but I gotta shake my head for a little while. Geesh.

Wednesday, July 15, 2015

What a day

Yesterday was quite the day of highs and lows. It started with my arrival at work. Before I even pulled in I could see 3 or 4 utility trucks on the grounds. That is rarely ever a good sign. There were also a couple people waiting at the west gate. Sure enough, the storm Monday night had taken down a power line in the trailer court behind my workplace, and it had knocked power out to part of my facility. Fortunately the office did not lose power, so I had phones, computers, and internet at least.

The first order of business was to try to get the gate open on the west side. I had to climb over the fence because we don't have a pedestrian gate. So I got it open. Then I had to determine how many buildings were without power - because all of our climate control buildings have keyless entry, and they don't work without electricity. Fortunately just 2 climate control buildings were down, so I unlocked those doors.

Next I noticed that my Digigate software would not work. That is what handles people's codes and allows them entry into their particular gate and building. I also had 16 security cameras that weren't working (almost half of them). Fortunately the company that services these was already in town from Indianapolis. They came over and looked through things and discovered we also had a short somewhere in our electrical system that was tripping a circuit breaker. So an electrician had to be called in. Then the security company replaced some parts and needed to restart the computer. Our computer is set up so the only person with the passwords is our IT person, who lives in Michigan. I called him and he WOULDN'T GIVE US THE PASSWORD!!! He said he would drive down from Michigan and take care of it. The security guy - who is from Indianapolis - was totally (and understandably) pissed, so he left. He was not going to wait for this guy to make a 2 hour trip just to do something he could have done himself. In the meantime, now none of my doors or gates would work, so I had to go manually unlock the remaining 22 doors on the property.

Anyway, then the electrician showed up and found that there was a light that must have been hit by lightning and was shorting out. So after an hour or so they got that resolved. The IT guy showed up and started monkeying with the computer. He eventually got things working, so I had to go back and lock those 22 doors I had just unlocked. Oh, and I haven't even mentioned yet that we have a construction crew that started demolition on our middle office building this week! One of the former office tenants didn't return his keys, so I have to let them in the one building.

At the end of the day we still didn't have power to the west gate or 2 of the buildings and half the security cameras didn't work. The utility crew was still restoring power, and must have gotten it done not too long after I left. The IT guy was also going to update my computer after I left. I was more than happy to get out of there at closing time.

On the bright side, though, when I got home, son Isaac and his lovely bride were at our house, along with the Feipel clan. Isaac and Ricci will be staying with us for a few days. We had supper together and then just hung out the rest of the night.

All in all it wasn't a terrible day - it could have been much worse - but it was a bit hectic. It didn't start out much better today. When I arrived at work I had our property manager/construction contact waiting for me, and then the owner called and gave me a list of things to do (most of which are not my responsibility, but apparently I am expected to be in charge of seeing that my superiors do them). Whatever. I am not going to let this job stress me out. Basically, it's Wednesday.

That is all.

Tuesday, July 14, 2015

Drumming up... drums

I found a partial drum set in the dumpster at work one day. There is an intact bass (kick), and the 3 toms. This has worked okay to occupy the grandkids to this point, but I think maybe it's time to make it an actual set. I wouldn't mind learning some basics myself. So I have begun a search for a snare, hi-hat, and a throne. My first step was sending a message to a friend who is not only an accomplished drummer, but collects drums. I can't remember how many sets he has acquired, but I'm sure he will steer me in the right direction. So there's that...


Snare Drum